Moose Lake Star Gazette - Serving Carlton and Pine Counties Since 1895

By Bethany Helwig
Moose Lake Star-Gazette 

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us

From the Editor


February 28, 2019

I haven't been having a very good day.

I know that's not a very uplifting opening for an editorial, but it's true. Between the frequent winter storms, wrangling varying aspects of my life, attempting to get my limping dog treatment, and still settling into my new job, I've had a rough couple of weeks.

There are plenty of people in the world who would read that and think "that's not so bad" or "stop whining." Maybe they're right. Maybe they're wrong.

Perspective changes by degrees of experience. What might be a terrible day for me, could be an average Tuesday for someone else.

But life experience is only comparable to a certain degree. Yes, we all face hardships, some more than others. And, yes, we can be a little overdramatic at times when it comes to our own troubles. That doesn't mean our problems are meaningless because someone else is having it worse. Someone will always have it worse.

Yet comparing our pain to others in some game of "one-up-manship" happens so often, you'd think we take it as a point of pride to be more miserable than those around us. As if the winner of the worst day ever is more important than everyone else.

I've found that comparing pain, while sometimes therapuetic to know we aren't alone in our suffering, usually tends to make things worse. We dwell more on the problems themselves than the solutions.

I'll admit, it's taken me a long time to change my own thinking. For years I was obsessed with all the little things that went wrong that they became all I could see. With each new trouble, things only got worse. If you want to know what came of that line of thinking, take a look at the article directly below mine.

Eventually, things took a turn. I made changes. My life started down a better road. Once you stop dwelling on the problems and instead focus on how they can be fixed, miracles can happen.

A few years ago, I turned my attention to how to get to where I wanted to be instead of being frustrated with where I was.

Life will never be easy, but it can be better. Sometimes it takes a push from someone else to get you moving in the right direction. Sometimes it's an event after which you will never be the same.

When you put your mind to it, it's almost funny what sort of opportunities become open to you, even ones you thought to be impossible.

“When people say impossible, they usually mean improbable.” (Leigh Bardugo, Siege and Storm)


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